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Finding your way out of addiction.
There’s no such thing as a drinking problem.
Or a drug problem.
Or any other problem that is somehow connected to things we do in ways that are unhealthy and compulsive and obsessive.
Even though there are many activities we can get hooked on in a really fucked up and undermining way, they are not the problem.
None of them.
They are just dubious, temporary ways to deal with what we REALLY fear:
Discomfort.
We can’t stand it.
We run away from it.
We drown it in whatever we can get our hands on.
But our addiction of choice is not our choice.
There’s not a single addict in the world who wants to be addicted.
What they want, what we ALL want, is just to feel good.
To feel safe, to feel whole, to experience peace of mind, or at least realize that it’s just around the corner instead of forever out of reach.
We want to be liberated from the incessant criticism of the mind, from the pain of our imagination.
And the habits we call addictions are just clumsy (and often really effective) ways to get there.
